Bride's corner: Why Most Marriages Are Likely To End Soon
1.Independence Is Crippling Marriages: People end up in divorce court because they wait too long to find solutions to the problems in their marriage. We are a nation of highly independent people and in my opinion that independence we covet stands in the way of us being able to humble ourselves and ask for help from each other—and the experts
2. Couples Don't Know how to Fight Fair:
Couples have this romantic notion that if they are in love they shouldn't be fighting. Once the fighting begins, they are so flabbergasted by the idea that someone who loves them would criticize them that all hell breaks loose.
3. "My Way or The Highway" Mentality: In a marriage, a person’s role will change. At times, they will be in control of major issues, at other times their spouse will be in control of major issues. I see an unwillingness to give over control to each other. It is called "mutual submission" and in my experience, I see very few people willing to yield control to their spouse. The “my way or the highway” mentality is destroying good marriages and leaving people with nothing but their need to be control freaks.
4. Marriages Are Viewed as Disposable In Today's Society:
We live in a disposable society. Marriages are thrown away in the same fashion one would toss an old pair of shoes. We are looking for a quick fix, something that can satisfy our needs and if those needs aren’t satisfied some feel it is easier to toss the spouse and move on to the next relationship.
5. Our Marital Expectations Are Childish:
Our expectations of what marriage is supposed to be are childish. We think if we will meet someone, fall in love, marry and that person will take care of all our needs. We believe our spouse will there every step of the way and solve any problems that arise or distill any loneliness we may feel. We marry expecting someone else to make us happy, instead of creating our own happiness.