One of the biggest components of lasting love is the security that comes with knowing you are there for each other, day in and day out, no matter what life throws your way. While this deeper security can only develop through shared experiences over time, by the time you are ready to declare your love, you should be fairly confident in the answer to this question.
Am I Ready to Share My Entire Life with My Partner?
During the early dating phase, both partners tend to become the best possible versions of themselves, smoothing the rough edges and leaving out gritty details. They also tend to lead very separate lives. This is healthy and normal, but love means sharing all aspects of your life, openly and honestly.
Does My Partner Make Me Feel Better When I Am Down?
In a true love relationship, your partner becomes your confidante. The relationship is a safe place to share not only your hopes and dreams, but also your fears and doubts. Do you naturally turn to your partner when you are passed over for a promotion at work or have a fight with your mother? Does he know just how to bring you out of the doldrums and make you laugh? Does she take your emotions seriously while helping you find a healthier way to cope?
Do We Truly Know Each Other?
It is not necessary for loving couples to know every single experience that has occurred in 20 or 40 years of life, but it is important that your partner knows the highlights of your past, as well as who you are today. Do you understand each other’s values, views on child rearing, spending habits, and personalities? Have you seen each other at your best and worst? Do you know about each other’s emotional entanglements with exes, ailing relatives, and overly dramatic siblings?
Can I Overlook My Partner’s Faults?
Am I very critical of my partner, or can I overlook the little annoying things easily? Can I compliment him or her easily? Do I judge him or her negatively a lot? It is important not to criticize too much, either openly or to yourself. Ask, “Can I do that?”
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